How can this not be addressed?
In this post, I am not in any way saying that women are not at fault for joining in on certain conversations in regards to men and sexual innuendos. I am saying, however that it is more than not, the male mind that takes part in the degradation of the female body when in the midst of other men. Not only is this an attack on women, but it is most certainly the foundation of what feeds the minds of rapists and abusers.
We all know and have even witnessed situations that when men are in a group, it only takes one mind to start the train of thought which leads to words of degrading women.
Why is it, that there are so few MEN in the room that will take a stand and say NO to these horrible habits of thought. How can you say you love women on one hand, yet take part in demoralizing them as if they were nothing more than a dirty joke? These words are not amusing nor are they funny, and it is totally dis-respectable to your partners in life.
I ask that you keep these two things in mind if and when you are involved in a conversation of such: One, that if you do not now have a daughter or daughters, that you may one day and these remarks are directed towards them as well. Two, that your mother is also being targeted with these so-called humorous remarks or jokes~ Need I say more??
We all talk about it… hear about it…read about it…we even witness it…but how many of us are actually victims of it and are not identifying with it for whatever reason. The it in this post being emotional abuse~
It cannot be seen, nor controlled in so many cases as it is what I consider an invisible abuse and so many of us do not know how emotional abuse looks on a victim or worse whether or not we are the victim. It is all about controlling another person through their emotions. We do however see the results and the damage of emotional abuse as the victim slowly loses their smile, weight, their zest for life and/or drinks too much or falls into self medicating with drugs. We see it as they stop calling or coming over. We see it when they refuse to allow us to visit for fear of being discovered or questioned.
It can be so obvious if we know what to look for in our family, friends even our own selves.
This video describes emotional abuse clearly and not only leaves you without a doubt…it also leaves you with many thoughts and a keen awareness of what emotional abuse looks like~
-not the victims fault
Rape is about power and control, it is not necessarily about the sex.
Rape is the use of a threat or actual force and violence to take control over another person against their free-will.
Some rapists will use drugs to take away a person’s ability to resist. This is known as coercion or intimidation, which is a type of manipulation of ones free-will compliance.
A rapist deserves no favors nor excuses. This victimizer knows right from wrong. When a person says ‘ NO’ ….they mean ‘NO’. Excuses such as…she was saying ‘NO’, but I know she was really saying ‘YES’ are as shallow and as disgusting as the rapist themselves…..
Abuse has no limitations…it knows no age, gender, nor color. It is one of the most scarring, shaming and traumatic experiences a human mind will ever be experience.
Abuse is another one of those words that society never fails to turn into shame…it is why I call it a ‘ HUSH WORD’.
It is what most people that are victims work very hard at hiding because of many reasons, shame being one.
A victim will go to any lengths to hide her abuse, not so much to protect her abuser, more so to protect herself and the realization that she is in an abusive relationship and then she will be forced to deal with it.
In most cases the victims are already grown up when they finally begin to address certain abuses they have experienced in life…it is only then that they can find the strength to call upon the demon that has haunted them for years. Or they find themselves in one abusive relationship after another…never quite understand what they keep doing wrong…….