Self Empowerment for Women

Self-esteem, relationships, domestic violence, abuse

Rape: a discussion on Face Book~

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The act of rape is not only serious, intrusive, violating, victimizing, terrorizing and traumatizing,  it is also an act that remains without reason or rhyme for so many. We read and hear,  that it is about an act of a type of control and power. When I speak/write about the act of rape, it is about when the word NO, bears no meaning. It is about when one person goes beyond what is right and what is acceptable. It is also about when a person has no control over their own thoughts and/or actions, yet takes control over another’s through physical and/or mental actions in a sexual manner of sorts.
I ran into this discussion on Face Book in which I felt compelled to share with you as it deals with a subject matter that can affect each and everyone to some degree.
The discussion deals with reactions towards the perpetrators of rape.
Please feel free to add to this discussion~
DorothyL

January 12, 2013 Posted by | Abuse, Women | , , , , , , , , , , , | 1 Comment

Smile outside…scream inside~

… after watching the hidden imprisonment that this child is allowing to surface through his self-expression.. I could not help but wonder, do we as parents choose to not identify with our children’s feelings and self-esteem or do we just not see them? Does it take a child’s threats of suicide to open your eyes as a parent that you are missing something vital to your child’s happiness?

This video may or may not be real, but what is real, is the message it is sending to you as a parent… please stop for a moment each day and not only talk but listen to your child. Keep an eye on how long he/she spends on Face Book, texting others and even the time he/she chooses to be alone.

~YOUR awareness as to where your child’s thoughts are, is not only essential to their happiness, but vital to their survival~

~You chose to be a parent… act like one~

Dorothyl

December 4, 2011 Posted by | Abuse | , , , , , , , , , , | Leave a comment

Rape Is..

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Rape
It is:
-forced
-unwanted
-horrifying
-traumatic
-shameful
-dirty
-forbidden
-sinful
-damaging
-ugly
-scarring
-not the victims fault
Rape is about power and control,  it is not necessarily about the sex.
Rape is the use of a threat or actual force and violence to take control over another person against their free-will.
Some rapists will use drugs to take away a person’s ability to resist.  This is known as coercion or intimidation, which is a type of manipulation of ones free-will and/or compliance.

A rapist deserves no favors nor excuses. This victimizer knows right from wrong. When a person says ‘ NO’ ….they mean ‘NO’.  Excuses such as…she was saying  ‘NO’, but I know she was really saying  ‘YES’  are as shallow and as disgusting as the rapist themselves…..

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~D~

July 25, 2009 Posted by | Abuse, Women | , , , , , , , , , , , , , , | 1 Comment

Are you being Abused?

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Abuse has no limitations…it knows no age, gender, nor color. It is one of the most scarring, shaming and traumatic experiences a human mind will ever be experience.
Abuse is another one of those words that society never fails to turn into shame…it is why I call it a ‘ HUSH WORD’.

It is what most people that are victims work very hard at hiding because of many reasons, shame being one.

A victim will go to any lengths to hide her abuse, not so much to protect her abuser, more so to protect herself and the realization that she is in an abusive relationship and then she will be forced to deal with it.

In most cases the victims are already grown up when they finally begin to address certain abuses they have experienced in life…it is only then that they can find the strength to call upon the demon that has haunted them for years. Or they find themselves in one abusive relationship after another…never quite understand what they keep doing wrong…….


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~D~


July 21, 2009 Posted by | Abuse, Women | , , , , , , , , , , , , , , | 3 Comments