Self Empowerment for Women

Self-esteem, relationships, domestic violence, abuse

Dear Men…from the victim

How can this not be addressed?

In this post, I am not in any way saying that women are not at fault for joining in on certain conversations in regards to men and sexual innuendos. I am saying, however that it is more than not, the male mind that takes part in the degradation of the female body when in the midst of other men. Not only is this an attack on women, but it is most certainly the foundation of what feeds the minds of rapists and abusers.

We all know and have even witnessed situations that when men are in a group,  it only takes one mind to start the train of thought which leads to words of degrading women.

Why is it, that there are so few MEN in the room that will take a stand and say NO to these horrible habits of thought.  How can you say you love women on one hand, yet take part in demoralizing them as if they were nothing more than a dirty joke? These words are not amusing nor are they funny, and it is totally dis-respectable to your partners in life.

I ask that you keep these two things in mind if and when you are involved in a conversation of such:  One, that if you do not now have a daughter or daughters, that you may one day and these remarks are directed towards them as well. Two, that your mother is also being targeted with these so-called humorous remarks or jokes~  Need I say more??

Dear men...



January 12, 2014 Posted by | Abuse, Women | , , , , , | 2 Comments

Rape: a discussion on Face Book~

The act of rape is not only serious, intrusive, violating, victimizing, terrorizing and traumatizing,  it is also an act that remains without reason or rhyme for so many. We read and hear,  that it is about an act of a type of control and power. When I speak/write about the act of rape, it is about when the word NO, bears no meaning. It is about when one person goes beyond what is right and what is acceptable. It is also about when a person has no control over their own thoughts and/or actions, yet takes control over another’s through physical and/or mental actions in a sexual manner of sorts.
I ran into this discussion on Face Book in which I felt compelled to share with you as it deals with a subject matter that can affect each and everyone to some degree.
The discussion deals with reactions towards the perpetrators of rape.
Please feel free to add to this discussion~

January 12, 2013 Posted by | Abuse, Women | , , , , , , , , , , , | 1 Comment

Credit Card Companies say” NO” to CHILD PORNOGRAPHY!!

I found this article and well, you know me, I just had to expose it to a wider audience. I would luv to hear your thoughts on whether or not these multi-billion dollar, profit- tycoon companies will actually turn down that almighty dollar. Personally, I doubt it, but again that is just my opinion and I will leave that thought with you!

*******USARELIGIOUSNEWS.COMCredit Cards Cancel Porn2006-08-03 — USA Religious News –-

The Financial Coalition Against Child Pornography is teaming up with the U.S. credit card market in an attempt to take the profitability out of online child porn, a multibillion-dollar, international business. Participating credit card companies will report child porn sites they find that are accepting their cards as a means of payment for the porn. They will also block these transactions or possibly help track sellers and buyers if an investigation by law enforcement results.
Ernie Allen, of the National Center for Missing and Exploited Children (NCMEC), and Senator Richard Shelby (R-AL) brought the coalition together, with the goal to eradicate commercial child porn by 2008.
“The scope of the problem is much greater than we ever thought,” Allen says. “It’s mind-boggling.” NCMEC’s CyberTipline reports more than 340,000 reports of child porn websites — up from just 24,400 five years ago.
Allen explains how one website can attract thousands of customers, predominantly male, who purchase $29 monthly subscriptions on their credit cards. “People are getting into this because they see children as a commodity,” Allen adds. “There’s no question organized crime is involved.”
The NCMEC spokesman explains the groups’ strategy. “To eliminate the commercial viability of child pornography, we must stop the flow of money,” he says. “To do that, we need the involvement of the world’s leaders in the payments industry and the Internet.”
Participating companies include Visa, MasterCard, American Express and Discover. In addition, Bank of America, Chase, Citigroup and PayPal are involved. However, MasterCard and American Express do not intend to reveal customer identities unless subpoenaed to do so.
“This is the broadest, most comprehensive coalition we’ve been involved in,” said MasterCard executive Joshua Peirez. “This is not a competitiveness issue. This is about protecting children.”

REALLY….is all I really have to say to that.
Better yet…. is there an election to follow this attempt to smell good in the most ridiculous pile of garbage? Seriously, this is like believing that magazines will stop trying to make their profits selling: cosmetics, diet-programs and pills or ageless cremes through unreal body images. A fact that we all know, has only been brought to our attention because of shouts being heard, finally from self-respecting women that are tired of watching these companies make profits at the expense of our younger and very vulnerable generation. This line really made my stomach tighten into a knot of disgust, “NCMEC’s CyberTipline reports more than 340,000 reports of child porn websites — up from just 24,400 five years ago.” Also this one, “People are getting into this because they see children as a commodity,” Allen adds. “There’s no question organized crime is involved.”

UG….is this what are world has evolved to?

A low-life and sick-twisted poor excuse for a human being. That is again my opinion of these creatures that seek out this kind of so-called sick excitement. I am not sure which one I would like to remove from this earth first, the seller or the buyer. Why is there a market for such an item of, again I say, “so-called sick excitement?” I really do not like to be gender specific or point any fingers, but it is becoming more than obvious even to the most narrow minded person that males are noted as the culprit behind the majority of buyers, as this quote also backs me up in that thought, “Allen explains how one website can attract thousands of customers, predominantly male, who purchase $29 monthly subscriptions on their credit cards.” It is the old question of what came first,” the chicken or the egg?” Is it the stripper or the patron paying for that stripper? Is it the bank robbers and purse thief’s or is it the government`s teachings of legalized robbery as they do well through taxes and fee`s with a smile and a hand shake?Is it the makers of child pornography, the parents that profit, or the person purchasing such filth? Is it the bar owner making sales of alcohol, or is it the person that pays for it? Do you see a pattern here at all?I do!…I see it like this….It is ,”I” that chooses to make the decision of what, “I” want or do not want. It is “I” that chooses to undermine what is right from wrong. It is,”I” that spends my time and money on the said item or form of excitement.Can you see it now?It is YOU and I that is responsible for all of this garbage that we have to smell every second of every day. It is also YOU and I that can change this stench of life.So lets DO IT….PLEASE. For the sake of our children and their children and so on, can we not just put more time and energy in making this world a little bit of a better place. I don`t know about you, but when someone says that I cannot do something or that I will fail because the, ” Bible told me so”.  Well I fight back and prove them wrong on every damn letter of their accusation or disbelief. SO lets FIGHT back and NOT ALLOW these horrible people continue to ruin our what should be a beautiful world.

We are strength in numbers ans I have said so many times to the members of my WSE forum, so people hear me now…. WE CAN DO THIS!!!!  WE CAN DO ANYTHING WE WANT, we just have to WANT IT!!!!! I hope that you know where your child is and I hope that you are not making a profit on your child, for that I hope you pay in full!


October 21, 2009 Posted by | Abuse | , , , , , , , , , | 3 Comments

The rape…the aftermath

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Quietly you pull up your sweats, then slide into your running shoes and grab your ipod on your way out the door for your  early  run. This is your time of the day, your space to just breathe and prepare for the rest of whatever the day has to bring you.  Up early,  just in time to see the sun rise, breathing in the early morning dew, putting  your best foot forward as you fall into your cadence at ease.

The park is quiet at this time, which is a good thing as you love to sing while you run to challenge your heart rate. The trees are so  thick and full at this time of year that a person could easily stay hidden in them, you think as you run. The birds sing as they begin to wake to the sun, as it shows its first peak of light. You close your eyes for a second and feel the warmth of the day on your face and then in that instant, something knocks the wind out of you. You are taken over from behind, you fall to the ground, you no sooner put your arm down to push yourself up and you feel a pain shoot through the back of your head, falling to the ground.

You must have passed out,  the more conscious you become, the more you  try to regain some level of reality…you realize that your body is not your is being sexually violated. This abuse, this rape, it is tearing you apart, the pain and the violation is like nothing you have ever experienced before……





August 13, 2009 Posted by | Abuse, Women | , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , | 1 Comment

Rape Is..


It is:
-not the victims fault
Rape is about power and control,  it is not necessarily about the sex.
Rape is the use of a threat or actual force and violence to take control over another person against their free-will.
Some rapists will use drugs to take away a person’s ability to resist.  This is known as coercion or intimidation, which is a type of manipulation of ones free-will and/or compliance.

A rapist deserves no favors nor excuses. This victimizer knows right from wrong. When a person says ‘ NO’ ….they mean ‘NO’.  Excuses such as…she was saying  ‘NO’, but I know she was really saying  ‘YES’  are as shallow and as disgusting as the rapist themselves…..



July 25, 2009 Posted by | Abuse, Women | , , , , , , , , , , , , , , | 1 Comment

Are you being Abused?


Abuse has no limitations…it knows no age, gender, nor color. It is one of the most scarring, shaming and traumatic experiences a human mind will ever be experience.
Abuse is another one of those words that society never fails to turn into shame…it is why I call it a ‘ HUSH WORD’.

It is what most people that are victims work very hard at hiding because of many reasons, shame being one.

A victim will go to any lengths to hide her abuse, not so much to protect her abuser, more so to protect herself and the realization that she is in an abusive relationship and then she will be forced to deal with it.

In most cases the victims are already grown up when they finally begin to address certain abuses they have experienced in life…it is only then that they can find the strength to call upon the demon that has haunted them for years. Or they find themselves in one abusive relationship after another…never quite understand what they keep doing wrong…….




July 21, 2009 Posted by | Abuse, Women | , , , , , , , , , , , , , , | 3 Comments