Self Empowerment for Women

Self-esteem, relationships, domestic violence, abuse

The Dark Side of Face Book…

The reality of human actions has always been horrifying to say the least.

Internet communication has opened doors to every household on the planet, allowing the innocence of our children to be held captive in a world of negativity and destructive behavior.

We, as parents, must take action and sharpen our own awareness as to what our children are doing when it involves networking on the Internet.

We do not allow our children to talk to strangers on the street or let a stranger in that knocks on our door,  do we? Then why is it, that we allow them to surf the Internet or have a Face Book page without our knowledge? Many children do have unmonitored access to the Internet and yes, they do join Face Book and other social networking sites when they are not being watched. This is where our awareness as a parent is vital.

There has been numerous amounts of excellent information made available to each of us, such as the video above, which screams out to parents to be more aware and to take control of our children’s freedom on the internet. Safety for our children begins in our homes.

The negative thinking and what people are willing to do to make money at the cost of our children’s innocence has always been out there. The Internet has only made is readily available in our own homes at all times.

Where there is a demand, there will be a market. That saying holds an ugly truth when it involves pornography and the innocence of the human mind.

We continuously point the finger of blame in many directions for what may possibly be avoided in what we allow to happen in our lives.

In sharing this post with you, I can only hope that you will become more aware in the fact that you have done everything in your power to keep your Internet doors locked in the name of the safety of your children~

 

Dorothy

 

December 22, 2014 Posted by | Abuse, Women | , , , , , , , , , | 1 Comment

Abuse becomes visible through daily photos for 1 year..The End is Disturbing..

This may or may not be a real situation for the woman in this video, it is however a real fact in so many lives around the globe. I choose to share this with you so that you can read opinions of others that too may have either been or still are a witness to or a victim of abuse. Abuse is a prison in its own. It is to many an impossible situation to escape from. If you have never been mentally or physically abused, you can never conceive of its hold on the victim.   Dorothyl

A woman takes a photo of herself each day for a year long… At the end, the woman is holding a paper on which is written: “Help me, I don’t know if I’ll make it ’till tomorrow.”

Comments below..

Rhiannon Dean · St. Joseph CT
It pissess me off that so many people are judging her for staying for a year. Many people are in this form of relationship for much longer than that even. Abuse it’s not something most people can up and leave from because it permeates their life. Stop being judgemental and start being empathetic.
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Blair Logie
Well most of the time they still stay with them and don’t think that it is an abusive relationship (if you Watch Family guy, Quatmires sister for example). However This woman has shown that she knows that this is an abusive relationship and while she is calling out for help why did she take all those pictures?
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Mniek Stegenga · Top Commenter
Blair Logie Just try to imagine how much fear you can have for leaving such a person who does this. It needs some extra guts. Apparantly ´this girl found guts´ (not sure if its a real or made for the campagne) by asking for help on the internet. Playing with these kind of people feels like playing with your life.
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Blair Logie
Mniek Stegenga Apparantely it was a campaign.
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Beth Colclough · Upright at Self employed business
Until you walk a mile in someones shoes do not judge I spent 8 yrs in an abusive relationship until Ifinally ffoundthe strength and ccourage to leave. Then and only then did the real shit start to happen…

STOP JUDGING YOU KNOW NOTHING!
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August 6, 2014 Posted by | Women | , , , | Leave a comment

Dear Men…from the victim

How can this not be addressed?

In this post, I am not in any way saying that women are not at fault for joining in on certain conversations in regards to men and sexual innuendos. I am saying, however that it is more than not, the male mind that takes part in the degradation of the female body when in the midst of other men. Not only is this an attack on women, but it is most certainly the foundation of what feeds the minds of rapists and abusers.

We all know and have even witnessed situations that when men are in a group,  it only takes one mind to start the train of thought which leads to words of degrading women.

Why is it, that there are so few MEN in the room that will take a stand and say NO to these horrible habits of thought.  How can you say you love women on one hand, yet take part in demoralizing them as if they were nothing more than a dirty joke? These words are not amusing nor are they funny, and it is totally dis-respectable to your partners in life.

I ask that you keep these two things in mind if and when you are involved in a conversation of such:  One, that if you do not now have a daughter or daughters, that you may one day and these remarks are directed towards them as well. Two, that your mother is also being targeted with these so-called humorous remarks or jokes~  Need I say more??

Dear men...

Dorothyl

January 12, 2014 Posted by | Abuse, Women | , , , , , | 2 Comments

Rape: a discussion on Face Book~

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The act of rape is not only serious, intrusive, violating, victimizing, terrorizing and traumatizing,  it is also an act that remains without reason or rhyme for so many. We read and hear,  that it is about an act of a type of control and power. When I speak/write about the act of rape, it is about when the word NO, bears no meaning. It is about when one person goes beyond what is right and what is acceptable. It is also about when a person has no control over their own thoughts and/or actions, yet takes control over another’s through physical and/or mental actions in a sexual manner of sorts.
I ran into this discussion on Face Book in which I felt compelled to share with you as it deals with a subject matter that can affect each and everyone to some degree.
The discussion deals with reactions towards the perpetrators of rape.
Please feel free to add to this discussion~
DorothyL

January 12, 2013 Posted by | Abuse, Women | , , , , , , , , , , , | 1 Comment

Emotional Abuse~

We all talk about it… hear about it…read about it…we even witness it…but how many of us are actually victims of it and are not identifying with it for whatever reason. The it in this post being emotional abuse~
It cannot be seen, nor controlled in so many cases as it is what I consider an invisible abuse and so many of us do not know how emotional abuse looks on a victim or worse whether or not we are the victim. It is all about controlling another person through their emotions. We do however see the results and the damage of emotional abuse as the victim slowly loses their smile, weight,  their zest for life and/or drinks too much or falls into self medicating with drugs. We see it as they stop calling or coming over. We see it when they refuse to allow us to visit for fear of being discovered or questioned.
It can be so obvious if we know what to look for in our family, friends even our own selves.
This video describes emotional abuse clearly and not only leaves you without a doubt…it also leaves you with many thoughts and a keen awareness of what emotional abuse looks like~

 

~D~

June 30, 2010 Posted by | Abuse, Women | , , , , , , , | 2 Comments

Forgiveness..a Key to Personal Freedom

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What do you do when you are in a place where someone’s hurt you? Someone that you have trusted deeply and cared so much for in your life!What do you do when you are hit  blindsided by life and pulled down so fast that you almost lose your breathe, not to mention your sense of reality? Do you become a new acquaintance of negative thinking and allow hate, disgust, bitterness even resentment to take control of your thoughts?

“DO NOT…. do that!“

Do not allow any amount of negative thinking  hold you down under its weight of mistrust and its desire to hurt back. It will be a very long road to nowhere.  Happiness is most certainly not at the end of that road. The only thing that you will find there is the need to avenge your pain and sorrows. You will be tricked into thinking that to hurt back is the only way to find closure or justice.

“DO NOT… do that!“

There is not a single person on earth that has not been a victim of mistrust, criticism or deception in one form or another. Whether it be from a partner, child, co-worker, girl-friend or even a neighbor. When one has been hurt by a close  and trusted person, that hurt goes into places very deep inside of your heart. It is a hurt that is considerably unbearable and you feel like your life has come close to death. If you give into that hurt and allow it to consume your thoughts, you will fall into a very ugly world of wanting to somehow avenge  that person in either the same level of hurt or even a deeper hurt.

I have experienced…..

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~DorothyL~

 

September 3, 2009 Posted by | Abuse, Women | , , , , , , , , , , | 1 Comment

The rape…the aftermath

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Quietly you pull up your sweats, then slide into your running shoes and grab your ipod on your way out the door for your  early  run. This is your time of the day, your space to just breathe and prepare for the rest of whatever the day has to bring you.  Up early,  just in time to see the sun rise, breathing in the early morning dew, putting  your best foot forward as you fall into your cadence at ease.

The park is quiet at this time, which is a good thing as you love to sing while you run to challenge your heart rate. The trees are so  thick and full at this time of year that a person could easily stay hidden in them, you think as you run. The birds sing as they begin to wake to the sun, as it shows its first peak of light. You close your eyes for a second and feel the warmth of the day on your face and then in that instant, something knocks the wind out of you. You are taken over from behind, you fall to the ground, you no sooner put your arm down to push yourself up and you feel a pain shoot through the back of your head, falling to the ground.

You must have passed out,  the more conscious you become, the more you  try to regain some level of reality…you realize that your body is not your own..it is being sexually violated. This abuse, this rape, it is tearing you apart, the pain and the violation is like nothing you have ever experienced before……

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~DorothyL~

 

August 13, 2009 Posted by | Abuse, Women | , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , | 1 Comment

Rape Is..

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Rape
It is:
-forced
-unwanted
-horrifying
-traumatic
-shameful
-dirty
-forbidden
-sinful
-damaging
-ugly
-scarring
-not the victims fault
Rape is about power and control,  it is not necessarily about the sex.
Rape is the use of a threat or actual force and violence to take control over another person against their free-will.
Some rapists will use drugs to take away a person’s ability to resist.  This is known as coercion or intimidation, which is a type of manipulation of ones free-will and/or compliance.

A rapist deserves no favors nor excuses. This victimizer knows right from wrong. When a person says ‘ NO’ ….they mean ‘NO’.  Excuses such as…she was saying  ‘NO’, but I know she was really saying  ‘YES’  are as shallow and as disgusting as the rapist themselves…..

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~D~

July 25, 2009 Posted by | Abuse, Women | , , , , , , , , , , , , , , | 1 Comment

Are you being Abused?

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Abuse has no limitations…it knows no age, gender, nor color. It is one of the most scarring, shaming and traumatic experiences a human mind will ever be experience.
Abuse is another one of those words that society never fails to turn into shame…it is why I call it a ‘ HUSH WORD’.

It is what most people that are victims work very hard at hiding because of many reasons, shame being one.

A victim will go to any lengths to hide her abuse, not so much to protect her abuser, more so to protect herself and the realization that she is in an abusive relationship and then she will be forced to deal with it.

In most cases the victims are already grown up when they finally begin to address certain abuses they have experienced in life…it is only then that they can find the strength to call upon the demon that has haunted them for years. Or they find themselves in one abusive relationship after another…never quite understand what they keep doing wrong…….


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~D~


July 21, 2009 Posted by | Abuse, Women | , , , , , , , , , , , , , , | 3 Comments

Child Molesters…Do they Exist?

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This article that you are about to read is not an up-lifting and positive issue. It is going to be a REALISTIC and TERRIFYING read, one that is going make you feel sick to your stomach, not to mention make your skin crawl. This article is going to awaken your inner hate and give you a desire to make your cry for help count. It is about child molesters. The kind of human that in my mind does not deserve a second chance. A child molester is like any other disease that we must find a vaccine for and get rid of forever.

This article consists of my thoughts on child molesters. I cannot promise you that these thoughts will be kind or positive feeling. For that I apologize up front. My target here is to wake up the parents that are too busy to take a minute to check who their child is talking to on the internet, or ask who is calling when a mature voice is on the other end of the phone asking for your child……..


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~D~

July 10, 2009 Posted by | Abuse, Women | , , , | Leave a comment